The incident of attack on the pub goers in Karnataka has raised reactions from all sections of the society. Reactions were wide and varied. This incident took even the political color branding a particular party as communal. This is unfortunate but I’m going to discuss here who said what. Even the media equated the incident with a particular religion (see the picture on left, which I have explained it later). I tried to find out what people think and want from their core of the heart. So I put up some questionnaires to my friends. My first query to one of my friend, who is a manager in a company, was,“What is your view about pub culture?”
“See, everybody has the right to live his life the way he/she wants. If somebody wants to go pub, he can go. One cannot take the law in its hand. Beating them is not right”.
Then I asked,
“Would you like if your own daughter goes to pub?”
After little murmuring, he replied, “I’ll teach my daughter moral values, sanskara and good culture. So my daughter will never go to pubs”
Is not this a double-standard? My friend holds a very pious view about the society but when it comes to his daughter, he talks about moral values. I posed the above questions to many of my friends. Surprisingly the reply was same.
One friend, who holds an MBA degree, showed some bold character. She replied, “Yes, I wouldn’t mind if my daughter goes to pub? What wrong with it?” Then I asked her, “If nothing wrong with it then one day there will be pubs everywhere. Even near your house. It is a profitable business. Young people will come in skimpy dresses, drink, and do whatever they want to do in public. After all, they want to live a free life. Would like your daughter grow seeing all these? ” She immediately replied, “Pubs residential area mein thodi hota hai…(pubs cannot be in residential area)”. I could easily see her face becoming red. What does it mean? It means that she does not want her daughter to see all these cultures. But again, she holds the same religious view about the society as my manager friend above. Is it not a double-standard?
As everybody knows, pub culture has come to India from the western culture. In today’s global economy, many people go abroad, work there and in the process get influenced by their culture. It is natural. Good things about any culture should be accepted and practiced also. Gay culture, legalization of prostitution and other such things are already there in the western culture. It is a fact. Slowly demand of legalization of prostitution is picking up in India as well. Gay community is demanding the same. I’m not here to discuss what is right or wrong, but the double-standard of the people worries me.
When asked about their view on the legalization of prostitution in India, my friends have the same view as they have on pub culture. But when asked whether they would like if their own daughter becomes a prostitute? Believe me; some even threatened me to break the friendship if I again asked the same question. No body wants to listen any bad things about their daughter, wife and the family but they don’t hesitate to talk about society on any matter. We think that what is happening in the society will not affect us. This is absolutely foolishness if one thinks like this. As an individual we have the responsibility towards our society. What we do and think also affects people around us (the society). Anything which is not good for me and my family should also not be good for the society. Double-standard views are like a double-edged sword which cuts from both sides. We suffer silently but do not even realize it. Those who raise their voice are branded as communal, moral police, fundamentalist and so on. Are not we hypocrites?
I don't know why we become too dumb when it comes to society or nation and become super smart when it comes to personal issues or benefits. A book written on Indian people's attitude by V. Raghunathan ,entitled, "Games Indians Play: Why We Are the Way We Are" is worth reading. He cites numerous examples of Indian being Privately Smart and Publicly Dumb'.
The picture shown above are the headlines news from the leading news agencies across the world. Headlines 1, 3 & 4 are from world media (world news and gulf news) and 2 is from Indian media. See the irony. Hindus are depicted as 'Taliban' or the terrorist for the aggression on the pub goers. Every year thousands of people in India are killed in bomb blasts by terrorists. Investigators have found that these terrorist belong to a particular minority community i.e. Muslim. But not a single headline depicting this community as terrorist. Why? Is not this a double-standard? Now see the headline 2 in the picture above. It say, "Taliban style in BJP's Karnataka...". It is ridiculous. Recently a handful of terrorists (10 to be precise) killed hundreds of people in Bombay (26/11). How many headlines you saw like, "Muslim terrorists attack in Congress's Maharashtra"? I bet not even one. We (including the media and 'secular' politicians) don't hesitate to write or say anything against Hindus but we observed utmost care and 'secular' attitude when it comes to muslims, christians etc. Why this double-standard? This is nothing but the reflection of our society.
So why the double-standard view is there in the first place?